Dependability – a value showing the reliability of a person to others because of his/her integrity, truthfulness, and trustfulness, traits that can encourage someone to depend on him/her. So dependability is an aspect of integrity, a value that is So valuable, yet becoming SO rare these days. Why is that?
Why can't we count on people anymore? Why is it just so easy for people to say one thing, and then do another, with no remorse or afterthought? Is dependability really simply a trait that is dying off? Things people told us USED to be as dependable as Lucy moving the football just before Charlie Brown goes to kick it, but these days the actions of people are as if you never know WHAT Lucy is really going to do, regardless of what's come before.
Now I am far from perfect myself, growing up I was guilty of lacking this trait quite often, telling a football coach I was sick when I really was just sick of practice….but over the years I become a pretty dependable person, because it was a core value instilled in me by my parents – that is, if you don't have your integrity and people can't depend on you, you have nothing.
"Our integrity sells for so little, but it is all we really have. It is the very last inch of us. But within that inch we are free." – Valerie, V for Vendetta
These days, I will certainly suffer from the occasional memory lapse, but very rarely will I knowingly say one thing and then do another later. If it does occur, I'd better have a damn good reason.
Decide. Commit. Succeed. They're the core values of the Beachbody community, and until that middle part commitment is adhered to in this same sense…until you become dependable, not just in your health but with EVERYTHING you do and say to others, you're lost. You haven't crossed the hurdle you need to cross to succeed in anything.
So just try this. If you SAY you're going to plan something, MAKE IT HAPPEN. If you SAY you're going to be somewhere, GO THERE. If you SAY you're going to do something with someone, DO IT. If you SAY you're going to make a long term commitment, whether to your health, business, anything…MAKE THE COMMITMENT, and then STICK TO IT THE WHOLE TIME.
I know, I know, it's a crazy concept, but here's the other side of the coin. If you DON'T…then by definition you don't have integrity. You become someone who is NOT dependable. You CAN'T be counted upon, relied upon. You may still be a great person, fun to be around…but you will STOP having people rely on you for important things. Do you REALLY want to become "that" person?
Wouldn't you rather be the person that everyone around you can depend upon for anything? The person that only has to be told something ONCE, and everyone simply KNOWS it will get done, without having to repeat over and over? The person someone can expect to see somewhere because they KNOW you will be there?
Which are you? Which would you like to be?
I know I'm always looking for more dependable people to add to my coaching team, and my inner circle of friends and loved ones. If you truly believe it's you, definitely let me know ASAP, because it's a dying breed, and the world needs more!